Sending Care Packages to Deployed Service Members

Deployment can feel like a really helpless time for those who love a military member. We get so used to caring for them on a daily basis that it takes some getting used to when we no longer have the ability to make sure our loved one is eating, sleeping, and all around happy. Probably the best, and usually only, way we can help out during a deployment is through care packages. But with each new deployment comes the questions.. What can I send? How do I send it?
First, its important to know that the Postal Service is generally the only way to mail out a package to your deployed service member. In my own experiences, Priority Mail is the best way to go, as it generally gets to my husband quicker. The USPS offers a large variety of flat-rate boxes (for FREE!) and even has a special rate box for APO/FPO addresses!! Be sure to stock up on these flat rate boxes, as well as customs forms (anything in a box requires the large white customs form, if you're unsure you can ask the counter attendant at your local post office) and mailing labels.. and packing tape doesn't hurt either! After surviving 4 deployments in 5 years, I can assure you that before long you'll be able to fill out those customs forms with your eyes closed!
Next, be sure that whatever you plan to send to your service member is allowed to be mailed to that specific zip code. You can view the regulations from the Postal Service on their website. They even have a handy zip code search that allows you to quickly find the items you are not able to mail. As a general rule for military care packages, do not send: liquids (air pressure and sometimes less than gentle handling can cause containers to burst.. which could ruin your package, and other servicemembers' packages), aerosols (again, the pressure is a bad idea!), pornographic materials, chocolate or any other food that could "melt", or alcohol. Each individual command has rules about what is allowed at the deployment site also, so be sure that you are well informed before your loved one leaves.
So, what can and should you send? You know your loved one better than I do, but in my own experiences sending care packages to my husband, I offer the following tips:

1. Stick to items that are small in size or are consumable. Space is very limited during a deployment, so its best to send items that your loved one will either use regularly or that can fit into a small space. My own personal rule for this is to not send any more sentimental or novelty items than would fit into two large flat-rate boxes from the post office for an entire deployment. This assures that my husband can send them back home at the end of his deployment, without causing him a hassle or costing a fortune.
2. Don't assume that because your SO is deployed that he/she has no access to everyday items. In most cases things like body wash, shaving cream, razors, deodorant, toothpaste, etc . can be purchased while in port or at an Exchange located at or nearby the deployment site. If you want to send these kinds of items, I recommend baby wipes (for easy clean-up when showers aren't readily available), sunscreen, insect repellent (just be sure its non-aerosol), and chap stick.
3. Deployment can get monotonous.. so sending something that your loved one can DO while on deployment is a great idea! You can purchase fairly inexpensive items at your local dollar store and your SO can just pass the items on or toss them out at the end of the deployment. Think: poker chips, playing cards, dominos, and frisbees. Just remember to keep your items location-appropriate!
4. For holidays or special occasions, think simple and heartfelt (and keep space in mind again).

Again, you know your loved one better than I do, so only you can personalize each care package with the love and items that your SO will want or need. A care package, regardless of the amount of things in it, is a much-appreciated treat for your deployed servicemember. Find comfort in knowing that, if even for just a brief moment, you are providing the comforts of home to your loved one through your care package. Best of luck to you in your current and future deployments!